My Methodology, Strategy & Philosophy
South Florida Pediatric Sleep Consultant
Sleep training, sleep coaching, and sleep consulting are all different ways of describing the same job. This is not to say that everyone doing this job does it the same way.
Pediatric Sleep Consultant in South Florida
So, what’s the best method or strategy to sleep train your child?
The simple answer is – there isn’t one! People ask me all the time, “what method do I use to sleep train?” and my first thought is always- why can there be only one method or strategy?
Maybe you’re here because you already tried the “Ferber Method” or the “Cry It Out” method and you found it didn’t work for you and your baby. Maybe you haven’t tried anything because you’re feeling overwhelmed or scared and not sure what is best for you and your baby. Good news, no matter what you have tried or haven’t, your child can always learn healthy sleep habits!
There are so many factors that affect a child’s sleep – their age, health, sleep debt, diet, activity level, awake stamina, and more! Let’s not forget we must take into consideration your family’s unique lifestyle, schedule and parenting style. It’s easy to get overwhelmed when you’re trying to figure out how to balance all the aspects that affect babies’ and children’s sleep. There is no magic method that works for every child. However, there are many different options and strategies out there, so we’ll work together to find the best method for you and your child!
What are your sleep goals?
The most important question you must ask yourself as a parent when looking for sleep help is “what are your sleep goals for your child”? Everyone’s sleep goals are different, but once you get clear on what you want for your child’s sleep, you can then start looking for ways to reach that goal.
Good Little SleeperZzz was founded on a strong belief that healthy sleep habits make for a healthy and happy child. I have seen the transformation in children and parents, time and time again. When your child (and yourself) get the sleep you both need, everything becomes so much easier! A well-rested child is curious, energetic, happy, playful and eager to learn. A well-rested parent is more attentive, patient, relaxed and affectionate.
When parents entrust me to help their family, they are placing a great deal of trust in me and I want to let you know that I take this responsibility very seriously. I am dedicated to helping my families succeed by working with you to find the right method for your baby and supporting you through the entire process until we reach your sleep goals!
About My Philosophy
There are plenty of books and online websites that talk about sleep and what is best for your child, but those sources don’t know your baby like you do. Your child is unique and your relationship with your child is equally unique. A random source won’t be able to answer your particular questions about your baby’s sleep situation.
This reason is why I place so much emphasis on my customized plan and continuing personal support. Making any change can be difficult, but I know with some basic sleep education, the right plan and the right support, we can get your little one (and you) sleeping well.
My approach to improving your child’s sleep is pretty simple.
Sleep Expectations and Education
I will always be honest with you to give you scientific fact-based sleep education, while we’ll work together to decide the best options for you and your family. We will review all the necessary information about sleep and why it is so important for your child’s well-being. Then discuss the best options for achieving your sleep goals, helping you set appropriate expectations and reaching your objectives one step at a time.
Sleep Plan Designed for You
All children are different, and nobody knows your child better than you do. Working together, we will create an easy-to-follow, step-by-step plan that functions with your family’s schedule, as well as your parenting style. We’ll discuss reading your child’s sleep cues and appropriate awake times. Additionally, we will set up routines that work for you and your little one. We will take the plan one day and one step at a time, while answering all your sleep questions along the way. Then, when our time together is done, you’ll have all the information and experience you need to handle any future sleep troubles!
After establishing your sleep goals, we will set appropriate expectations so we can celebrate reaching the next step. No one should expect their child to sleep 12 uninterrupted hours on the first night — although it does happen! I promise to help guide you on what to expect along the way – the good, the bad and the ugly!
The Crying Question…
Let’s be honest, you came to this page to see if I believe in the “Cry It Out Method” or to see if my method would involve lots of crying. So, let’s talk about the crying. It’s a question I get asked frequently and since “crying it out” is a hot topic, I think we should discuss it honestly.
First, I think it’s very important that I clearly state – I will never ask you to leave your baby alone to cry or ask you to ignore your baby’s cries.
Babies have a lot of ways of communicating- using facial expressions, body language and of course, their voice. Babies make lots of sounds including crying. Now, not all crying is created equal and not all crying is bad. Sometimes babies cry as a way of handling their stress and getting emotions out. It is NOT healthy for anyone, including babies to never cry!
Crying is a physical response to internal stress. So, our body needs to get out that internal stress in a physical way. Think about the last time you had a good cry and then immediately after you felt better- that’s your brain releasing the feel-good hormone, oxytocin, after releasing your body’s stress.
The important part of this is to know your baby and to learn their language (at least until they can learn ours). Once we can learn to listen to our baby, we can better respond to their needs instead of just trying to “stop the crying”. Understanding your baby’s physical and vocal cues can help us guide them through this learning process with less stress.
We will work together to help make positive changes as gently as we can.
However, when you change the familiar, babies (and even adults) tend to get upset. So, we shouldn’t be surprised by some level of fussing, crying or protesting. Although, if we know our baby’s body language, sounds and cries, we can better adjust the plan to help minimize the frustration and protest. I will always be honest with my parents and the custom plan I create is meant to work as gently as possible to minimize or avoid the tears, but realistically there is usually some level of protest.
The reason parents see success with me is twofold: First, it is a customized plan to fit your family and your parenting style. Secondly (and more importantly), because I support you throughout the entire plan. So, if your baby isn’t responding to a particular strategy, then we change our approach. We will always tweak and adjust the plan/method on a timely basis to best suit your baby and family’s lifestyle.
There are so many questions when parents come to me, not to mention the parental doubt that is always present when trying to do your best for your child. So, while I’m not promising it will be a tear-free experience, I do promise to help support you every step of the way. This is why I offer a variety of support options, including in-home overnight support and overnight text support. You can see more of my sleep plan support options here.
Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant